Many of us have heard the saying, “30 is the new 20,” but is it really? Unlike our parent’s generation, our 20s are no longer a time for reaching adult milestones like finding a dream career, taking out a mortgage, getting married, having children and so on. Today, our 20s mean something different. Life has become far too expensive and competitive to do all that our parents did at our age. As a result, we begin to wait until our thirties to reach these adult milestones. Instead, our 20s have become a time when we ease into the real world, working jobs we are not necessarily passionate about, living in apartments we can barely afford, hooking up with guys until we find the right one and just trying to figure it all out. Life is certainly confusing as a twentysomething, but we’ve got a decade to figure it out, right?
Wrong. Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist who specializes in twentysomethings argues that the 20s are actually the most important years of our lives.
So why exactly are our 20’s so important?
Here Are The Facts:
+ The brain changes more in the 20s than any other decade in adulthood.
+ The actions you take or don’t take have a direct impact on the person you become.
+ The personality undergoes more change between 20-30 than during childhood.
+ Uncertainty causes depression, stress and anxiety peak in the 20s.
+ The executive functioning center of the brain called the frontal lobe develops most in this decade. The frontal lobe controls thinking, organizing, problem solving, emotional and behavioral patterns.
So what can you do to make your 20’s count? Here are some ideas:
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
With social media at our fingertips we tend to use social comparison as a means of problem solving. The issue is that we only compare ourselves to people we consider doing better than ourselves with promotes jealousy and self loathing.
Make achievable goals for yourself and sick with them.
There is strength in weak ties, so don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and make some connections.
Date For Love
Date someone that you actually like and can potentially see a future with.
You don't have to have it all figured out by 30 but the more you can figure out yourself, your life and your career the less you need to figure out in the long run.
Condition Your Brain
Create rituals, practice self discipline and challenge yourself to do things you didn't think possible.
Remember You’re Not stuck
If the job you have makes you unhappy, leave. Nothing is permanent in this decade and it is meant to be a time of self-development.
If you enjoyed this post I recommend you pick up a copy of Dr. Meg Jay’s book, “The Defining Decade.” I have personally read her book and cannot speak more highly of it! Find it HERE.